Are successful modern day women a social economic doomster to finding a date?

If you are a successful woman and is well to do today, it is mostly likely that you would look high for a man to date or to get married too. How will the result fare? Because you should, your career or business only makes you half successful without your own family. Honestly you might be competing with only a handful of man of choice if your annual income is $200,000 annually or above. Simply because you are performing very high in your career. There is steep competition when high performing men are also looking at a broader number with many girls who might not be as qualify as you, but yet can offer what’s best to a man’s heart. So how can you stand out or maybe you need a mindset change?

Maybe we can start by understanding how men has changed with society. Across all era and success or failure of a man’s career, men works hard and improved themselves for the same reason over and over again. For dating, it is to find a good girlfriend, an understanding and supportive wife, and a good mother to the children if this is in his plan. What he earns mainly are plan to provide to his love ones, family and children. If he has extra, he will get gifts for his partner occasionally. Which in all haven’t changed a bit. Their thinking and expectations is still quite traditional, conventional and practical. Speaks the same for men who choose to be single, even when they couldn’t afford to keep up to many women’s high financial expectations.

Next we look at how women’s thinking have changed. Modern day women tends to develop multiple views about having a partner, met with more of their own differing aspirations, goals, expectations and criteria. Women these days has shun away from traditional thinking of marriage and having children. Often replaced by career goals, adventure milestones and high expectations of a partner. They are able to plan for all these, but yet became an economic sacrifice being as an economic machine from getting a relationship. True happiness from life long marriage and having children are missed out in this sense which is very sad and wasted. Just look at the lonely souls.

Women gets mature faster. They could get smarter in their relationship plans, then getting lopsided by the modern dating trend for say.

It is not to ask women to lower their expectation. Are you giving men a chance if you could give yourself a chance to getting that happiness? It is not to pressure men by your high income. Are you being as generous as men if you are highly educated and command a higher than average pay now, or are you more withdrawn from men? Women can have a mindset shift and become more blissful in life. Let’s say if you widen your search to men earning average or slightly higher. This would take off steam from competition. You might not have something extra to be proud about him being rich or is strong in his career, but the trick is you can at least look at he is stable enough to form part of your expectations. Perhaps you might consider having prenup if you want to date. There are still many aspects of these of his good values, personality and character that will fulfill what a good family man and father he can be. Average men still have their good, let’s say if you are not doing well in your career for a while it’s still good to have someone around to help.

Olden days women rely mainly on their partner financially to get the things she wants. You are now able to afford what you want and get a nice pair of shoes any time you want. What about getting your own family? Does it comes like instant meal? If you happened to get a man earning lesser than you, most likely will not get you to pay for his things if he loves you and has his principle. This could form the basic. He will always tries his best to provide for the family. To do your best in the relationship, not asking you to give out money to him. You could simply be more generous to tell him that if he fails in making big in his career or business, it is alright, because you are fortunate to be able to provide for yourself. It will also be a blessing for the children, since you can provide better and more things on your own for the children, besides him doing it. If your man is not yet successful, but has the potential, you can consider going a slight step further by giving him a push financially understanding risk and reward. So having a family happiness can be bought by a man, you could too being more open and generous in your own thoughts. For men they are not so stupid, if you are strong in your finances, but yet doesn’t contribute it to the relationship and family and even expect your man to take care of your finances, you will never get what you want from them.

There are also many perks and financial assistance given by governments these days to couples to have children, leveling things out. Therefore modern career women should really give a thought and achieve success in having a family to her career, by seizing the chance.