Are you your pilot of love or a passenger of love to a guy?

If you are in the pilot seat in dating, it is most likely you will succeed in getting a date and marriage. But if you do not have a thought out plan for a relationship, it is most likely you will not get the guy you want.

Having a plan, such as discussing in a good flow, religion, marriage consideration, buying a house, sex after marriage, etc, to align with yours give the guy a very good idea of you and is confident for him to develop the relationship with you. In the event if something happened, try to avoid having the idea of saying “let’s see how things goes”, because it is like playing mind games. Guys don’t like it that you are wasting his time. Instead you can say something like, “you will find someone more suitable and best of luck”.

In dating, it is best from time to time to ask and check your status with the guy to see if further plans is needed. It is very healthy, consider the time and effort you can saved from the guessing game too. If you like him and do not confirmed the relationship early, he will fly away with another woman who takes this initiative.

Some women are just natural pilots when it comes to dating. These women are generally entrepreneurs. They don’t always ask a lot of questions about the guy they want to date. Not evening asking if he smokes or drinks. But in the early stage of love, they would have set a few basic guidelines for the guy to stay committed to the relationship or they will break up. These are not being violent or unfaithful in the relationship.
You being in the lead and planner for date and relationship means a lot of benefits for the guy. You will appear very attractive to the guy, because you takes his mind off from things, so that he can concentrate on his work. He will loves you more too, because you will be able to lead and plan for the children in the future. This is a sure way to get the guys.

In a relationship, if you want your man to change certain of his aspect, if you are in the lead and in a cheap way, you would tell him how much love him in what way as to recognize his changes when it happens. Other than that, some women do consider getting him gifts once in a while as a small reward for his improvement. He would be very happy and feel very grateful, because you are spending your little hard money on him.

So what happens if you are passive in dating. Certainly you do have plans for a lot of interests and hobbies instead. Maybe these are to hide away some privacy matters that you have that you would not like to tell others about. Along came guys who would woo you. They will have similar interests like you such as having a dog or travel the world. Believe it or not, most of these guys are actually doing them, because it is popular with the women. They are just populists to get themselves to have the opportunity to connect with you. Overtime in a relationship these guys’ same interests with you will wane. Next they will try to change you too. Being tactful, they will come to 50 50 of the deal. Are you looking towards that if you do not have a dating plan?

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